Posted by: Marvin Hanashiro
It’s no surprise to many ladies (and some gents) that getting your groom/partner excited about wedding planning can be like pulling teeth, but there are ways to get them involved and invested. For starters, you can assign them tasks that may seem small, but are really integral to the planning. Furthermore, there’s at least one aspect to the wedding (aside from the bachelor party) that really gets them pumped up, so pay attention to what gets them excited and give them some autonomy. Here are some specific ways to get that groom from sneer to cheer:
• Guys tend to be money-driven when it comes to making decisions, so have them draw up the initial wedding budget. Once it’s complete, you can review and make adjustments together.
• Unless you’re made of money, you probably have a maximum guest count you can afford to invite. Give your soon-to-be-spouse the ability to invite half of the count, so all is fair and force them to make hard decisions on who makes the cut.
• They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, so let him contemplate the reception food and research potential caterers.
• Have the groom research wedding insurance policies, which some venues require and can also protect your deposits.
• If you’re inviting a lot of out-of-town guests that need accommodations, have him research and reserve hotel room blocks. He can also hire the wedding-day transportation for the bridal party as well as the guests (if the hotel is far from the wedding venue).
• Everyone needs a license to make the marriage official, so have him apply for the marriage license and make any necessary appointments.
• Although you’ve probably been very explicit on the R.S.V.P. deadline, there are always people who don’t take heed, so assign him to review the R.S.V.P. list and contact any guests who have not sent in a response for final confirmation.
• If you haven’t hired a wedding coordinator, ask him to call all of your wedding vendors and confirm all of the details. You wouldn’t want all that planning you did go to waste, right?